Discernment Counseling

Are you or your spouse considering divorce
but not completely sure that’s the best path? 

If so, Discernment Counseling is designed for you.

It’s a chance to slowdown, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage.

Discernment Counseling is a new way of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship, and doubt that regular marriage counseling would help. The other partner is “leaning in”—that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage.​

​The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction for your partnership,

based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.


Our work together will be to help you to decide whether to:

  • try to restore your marriage to health,

  • move toward divorce, or

  • take a time out and decide later


The emphasis of Discernment Counseling is on each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems as well as possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends.

Discernment Counseling has a unique format. The therapist works with each partner individually for a portion of the session, and with the partners together at the beginning, middle and end of each session.

Number of Sessions: A maximum of five counseling sessions. The first session is usually 1.5 to 2 hours and subsequent sessions are 1.5 hours.

Discernment Counseling is not suited for these situations:
  • When one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce

  • When one spouse is coercing the other to participate

  • When there is danger of domestic violence

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