What to expect, step by step

1. Free consultation (20–30 minutes, at my office). We meet, you ask questions, and we decide together whether working with me is a good fit. It’s best if you both come. If one of you would rather talk with me alone first, that’s fine; I’ll then invite your partner to a consultation of their own.
2. Relationship history session ($239). Our first session together focuses on the history of your relationship. The fee includes the Gottman Relationship Checkup.
3. The Gottman Relationship Checkup. Before our next step, each of you completes a detailed online questionnaire privately, at home, at your own pace. Your answers are confidential; your partner doesn’t see them.
4. Individual sessions. I meet with each of you on your own to learn your personal history and follow up on any questions from the assessment.
5. Feedback session. We meet together again to review the assessment and set preliminary treatment goals, which we’ll refine as therapy progresses.
6. Ongoing sessions ($200, 75 minutes). We work on your goals, practicing new skills in session and at home.
7. Check-ins after therapy ends. Occasional sessions to help your progress last.

Assessment sessions are scheduled weekly where possible.

When couples therapy may not be the right fit

Couples therapy works best when both partners feel safe. If there is violence or fear in your relationship, an affair that is still going on, or an addiction that isn’t being treated, couples sessions may not be the safest starting point. I’ll talk with each of you privately about what makes sense.

And if, after we meet, I feel another approach would serve you better, I’ll work with you to find options that fit your needs.

If you are in crisis, call or text 988. National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. In an emergency, call 911.